Saturday, April 30, 2016

Prayerful Thoughts

A couple weeks back I recognized something with my children's prayers. They were hurried, short, repetitive, and not very thoughtful. I thought, "Man! What is up with my kids?" Later that night I was saying prayers with the Hubby and I recognized where I had gone wrong. Our prayers had gotten hurried, short, repetitive and not very thoughtful. You teach by example whether want to or not, and kids pick up on things...FAST!
Over the last couple of weeks I have been studying some chapters in Alma for my religion class, 30-35 to be exact. In these chapters there is a lot of talk about faith and prayer. Those have to be related right? One does not pray (with sincerity) without faith, and one does not have faith without sincere prayer.
In Alma 31:27 it reads,
 "Behold, O God, they cry unto thee, and yet their hearts are swallowed up in their pride. Behold, O God, they cry unto thee with their mouths, while they are puffed up,even to greatness, with the vain things of the world."
This is Alma and the Zoramites. Alma hears the Zoramites "vain repetitions", how great and wonderful they think they are and this was part of Alma's thoughts and prayer.
When I read this I knew I wasn't that bad, but I wasn't doing very well either. So, this is how I read it, "Behold, O God, they cry unto thee, and yet their hearts are distracted, Behold, O God, they cry unto thee with their mouths, while they are fighting with their kids to be reverent, even to the point of making them cry, and they quickly end the prayer so they can send their kids to bed or quickly feed the crying baby or run out the door for work or some meeting they are late for."
Now, I hope you laugh at least a little because this is true in your house too (please tell me it is). My point is these prayers were lacking more than just reverence they were lacking a great amount of faith. It doesn't take any faith to just say words in a prayer, but it does take faith to be sincere when you pray. 
I know my Heavenly Father loves me and for me to really be able to feel and be aware of that love I need to pray with FAITH, SINCERITY, LOVE, and WITH MY WHOLE HEART.

Monday, April 11, 2016

On Body Image

I've been thinking a lot about body image lately...lately as in the last year or two. These thoughts have been stewing for awhile and I've debated sharing them, but I feel like I should. When we talk about ourselves and our bodies, our kids are listening. They are learning and taking cues about people and how to treat them and how to talk to them and what to talk to them about... I feel like if we talk about our bodies so much—too often in a negative way, unfortunately--and that's so much of what our kids hear, no wonder there is a problem with boys growing up to be men who see women for only or mostly their bodies. And no wonder there is a problem with girls growing up to be women who see themselves for only or mostly their bodies.

I think it's okay to want to improve. I think we SHOULD be trying to be our healthiest, best selves. But there's a healthy, moderate way to do that, and a positive way to convey that, especially to our children.  (I am in no way claiming to be perfect at this...I am still working on it too, so hopefully this doesn't offend anyone, haha).  

When our kids ask, “Why are you exercising?” we can say matter-of-factly, “To help me be healthy and strong.”

When our kids ask us about our food choices, we can have an attitude of moderation, and explain that we try to eat good foods to keep us healthy and strong. Of course we all have treats, but not all the time.

When our kids tell us, “You're beautiful, Mom!” or “You look beautiful today!” we can smile and thank them, genuinely. We can tell them, often, that they are beautiful.

When we're pregnant and our kids pat our expanding bellies and say excitedly, “It's getting bigger! Soon it will be up here!” we can get excited with them, and talk about the growing life inside of us.

We can discuss how to talk about other people's bodies...(we're still trying to figure this one out ourselves). (How do I explain that using the word “fat” to describe someone is not polite, but also explain WHY? How do I explain this without implying that being “fat” is “bad,” because most people do not want to be called “fat?”)

When our children ask a question or make a comment about the human body we can answer matter-of-factly and not make a big deal out of it, so as not to imply that our bodies are shameful. (My own daughter has declared on multiple occasions, “He's a boy. He has a penis.” And I say, “Yes, you're right. He does.” (We're still working on appropriate times and places to discuss body parts :). )

We can avoid comparing our body to others and avoid talking about how we wish this was bigger or that was smaller. We can avoid talking about others bodies (or minds for that matter), in an unkind or demeaning or negative way. We can focus on the PERSON, not their BODY---and this includes OURSELVES.

We can talk to our children about being a person! We talk about making good choices. We talk about being strong, mentally, physically, morally. We can let our sons and daughters both play with cars and trucks and dinosaurs and trains and tools if they want, and we can let them play dress up and play with dolls and dance and have tea parties if they want.

When our kids ask why we get dressed, or dress up sometimes, or wear make-up, or certain clothes on some occasions, we can explain, “Our bodies are temples. Trying to look our best shows our Heavenly Father that we respect our bodies as gifts from Him.”

We can talk to our kids in plain and practical terms about the nature of sex, including the essentialness and beauty and sacredness of it. We can help them own their feelings and their hormones and learn to understand them, and therefore understand the power they have--this amazing power of procreation. We can teach them to be confident in their ability to harness that procreative power, to use it appropriately--within marriage. They are not slaves to this power. We can teach them that they are more than just that power. It is a part of them, a beautiful, essential part of them that they should own and not be ashamed of, but it is not who they are. It is a glorious, divine PART of who they are.

Most importantly, we can make sure that our children KNOW that they are—and we are—and we ALL are—children of God. This does not change. It is a constant, a fact, a truth, regardless of choices or failings or size or shape or social standing or even our own view of ourselves. Our kids are children of God. We ALL are children of God.

I feel like when we know this, when we remember this, and as long as our children know this--even if we fail in all other endeavors as parents—it makes a huge difference. We view ourselves and everyone else with LOVE.

We can teach our kids to love and feel loved and love themselves and love others and be in loving relationships and have a mutual love and respect with their spouses when that time comes.

So friends, men and women alike, let's be kinder and healthier to ourselves. Let's speak kinder of ourselves and of others. Our children are listening to us. Let's remember who we are, because when we do, then our children will too.


Tuesday, March 15, 2016

Where am I?

Here is the next scripture thought form Kelly. I have been reading the books of Enos, Jarom, and Omni. I think those books are overlooked sometimes when it comes to the Book of Mormon, especially Omni. But here is what I gleaned from my reading this week.
In Omni, He starts out saying that he has been commanded by Jarom (his father) to "write somewhat upon these plates...". He then continues on in verse 2 and says, "...I of myself am a wicked man...". I read these two verses several times, because for some reason they stuck out to me. My first thought was, "Was Omni really a wicked man, or was he just human like the rest of us and makes choices that he knew were wrong or did not follow fully in the ways of Christ?"
I went back to verse 1 and decided that he was following the commandment of his father to keep the plates and "preserve our genealogy". So, he is doing what his father has asked, I wouldn't think a wicked man would do that. Continuing on in verse 2 Omni says, "...I fought much with the sword to preserve my people, the Nephities, from falling into the hands of their enemies, the Lamanities." Omni has also fought to protect the people of Nephi from destruction of the Lamanities. At this time the Nephities are still basically good, Omni is fighting for the righteous.
So far I would not classify Omni as a "wicked man". He has followed the commands of his father Jarom, a righteous man, and has fought to protect what is good and righteous.
Okay, now here is the kicker-at the end of verse 2 he says, "...I have not kept the statutes and the commandments of the Lord as I ought to have done." I thought to myself, do I keep the statutes and commandments of the Lord like I ought? I do not know if Omni was really a wicked man or not, but what I have learned from Omni is that it may not be as simple as not committing adultry, or not drinking coffee. I follow those commandments easy enough along with "thou shalt not kill". But where am I when it comes to "Honor thy father and thy mother" or "Keep the Sabbath day holy" or "thou shalt have no other Gods before me"? Now that I am a mother myself I think I understand where my parents are coming from and I honor and respect them so much more than I did when I was 16. So, I am square there, but what about Keeping the Sabbath day holy? I don't go to the store or party with friends, I go to church with my family. But what am I doing to keep it HOLY?  I don't worship statues or have any other God, but does God always come first in my life?
In short Omni has helped me keep in check where I am concerning my Heavenly Father. I do believe I am pretty close to the path that leads back to my Father but am I as close as I "ought" to be?

Saturday, February 13, 2016

"Cheer up your hearts"

I have been studying 2 Nephi 9-16 this past week and I noticed something that amused me. I hope you don't mind me sharing this with you. In 2 Nephi 10-23 it reads:

 "Therefore cheer up your hearts,and remember that ye are free to act for yourselves-to choose the way of everlasting death or the way of eternal life."

This verse comes just 10 verses before it launches into "The Isaiah Chapters". Usually people dread the Isaiah chapters because they are a challenge to understand. I will confess I am one of those. So, I found it amusing (and possibly purposeful) that Jacob says "Cheer up your hearts" just before he quotes Isaiah.

Okay, so after he tells us to be cheery, he reminds us that we are free. Living in "the home of the brave and the land of the free", the word "free" is tossed around a lot and maybe a little too "freely". ;) We are free, or are given the opportunity, to act for ourselves. We get to choose! That is awesome! When I make meals for the boys they get to choose sometimes what we have. But they always get to choose how they respond (or act) to what I make. It isn't always PB&J or waffles (which they request for almost every meal, whether I ask for suggestions or not). Sometimes it is a, heaven forbid, a veggie meal (Ewww gross!).

Now that I have dissected that verse a little for you I want to apply it to (duh duh duuuuhn) "The Isaiah Chapters". I decided that I would try and pick out a few things from these chapters that give me a cheery heart.
Chapter 12:
Right off the bat he talks about the Temple (1 cheery heart) and in these Temples we get to learn "...and he will teach us of his ways, and we will walk in his paths..."(2 cheery heart) (2 Ne 12:3). Then he discusses how the proud and the wicked will fair during the second coming. I strive not to be those things so if I stay on the course at hand I will be at peace. (3 cheery heart)
Chapter 14:
We are given a tabernacle-a place of refuge and peace (4 cheery heart) (vs 6)
Chapter 16:
We can be purged and cleansed of our sins (5 cheery heart) (vs 6-7)

We can be cheery through times of difficulty and trial, you may have to search it out a little but it is there. I found at least 5 cheery hearts in these chapters of Isaiah. How many cheery hearts can we find through out our days of motherhood?

-Kelly :)

Wednesday, February 3, 2016

Restart Button

One of the BEST parenting things that has happened to me is discovering my restart button. I feel like everyone has one. Going for a walk, relaxing in a bath, reading etc. I don't remember when I discovered mine, but it has been a life saver. When my mornings get crazy, and I mean KRAAZZY, children are yelling at each other and I'm yelling even louder at them to STOOOP YELLING while their oatmeal is upside down on the opposite end of the house and there is spit up on me...this is all hypothetical of course.. BUT when mornings get out of hand, I click my literal Restart Button.

My Pandora App - LDS Hymns of Worship Station

I pull out my phone, turn that station on, and in my head say a little prayer. I keep it playing in my pocket and after a few songs I feel like I've restarted myself. Without fail. Yes The house is still crazy, but I feel at peace, strengthened, joyful, determined, or whatever it was I prayed for help to be. I have also noticed the music helps my children restart too. This is MY restart button. Have you found yours yet?

Monday, January 18, 2016

Banana Ice-cream

Here is one of my FAVORITE things to make when fighting a sweet tooth. Introducing..Banana Ice-cream! AKA Healthy Ice-Cream.


2-3   Frozen Bananas
2 TB Peanut Butter
1TB  Cocoa

First Blend frozen Bananas until slightly creamy. Next Add PB and Cocoa and blend till smooth. This makes a delicious Peanut butter Chocolate Icecream. You can add other ingredients like strawberries if you wish.  I'll add pics the next time I make it, but it ends up looking just like ice-cream and it is delicious!

First Post!!

Ok so there were hardly any blog names left to choose from...so I thought of this!! Who knows if we will use it, but it can be a great place to share recipes, parenting tips that have ACTUALLY worked for you (knock on wood), inspiration, a way you overcame something...really just anything that you feel is really worth sharing. This is not supposed to be a filing cabinet stuffed full of stuff we hardly ever use lol. Rather it can be a place where we can go to find and share ideas. Thus helping each other in our Acquiring Brilliance!